Dear Guys,
I want to share with you all an excerpt from a pm I sent Charles
this morning. This was written well before Relmor's thread was started.
Good Morning Charles,
I am one of the thousands, who not so silently,
enjoy visiting
your site daily.
I can not began to tell you how much I have learned here in
the relatively short amount of time I have been a member.
I have also learned a lot about human behavior.
One. That men bitch a lot. I thought that was our
job.
Two. Many times, depending on who it is, every word written
is disected and analized.
And the third thing I have learned from your site,
Don't take it personal. Many times it is the attackers who
have the issues. They must prove their point at all costs.
The only thing they are proving is that they are assholes.
I can understand your frustration but please don't let it deter
you from providing a place we all can gather.
Sincerely,
Julie
I hesitated repeating this pm and hope Charles doesn't mind that
I did. This was prompted by yet another attack on Charles by a
poster who questioned his motives.
So my point here is, I love a debate, there is nothing more fun
then to read a volley back and forth between posters. What I
don't love is when the debate turns into personal attacks. Not
only is it hurtful to the recipient, but it is uncomfortable for us
on the sidelines to watch. At least it is to me.
When I first ventured onto this site, I read posters who were
way more eloquent than I ever thought of being. So I really
hesitated at starting to post. When I jumped in, is when
I was criticized for not posting a link, as well as my motives.
(That's what I forgot to mention to Charles I learned. #4 Always post
a link.)
If I were not a very strong person, I would have slunk away,
never to be heard from again. But I am really glad I didn't.
I realized that things just got way out of hand, this was
not the norm here, I hoped.
I have come to enjoy and like many posters here, and consider
this a sort of online family. And like family, sometimes we argue,
but it's when we cross the line with personal attacks, is when we
become divided.
I apoligize for the sometimes rambling, incoherent post,
unfortunately I am not good at condensing my thoughts. I
missed that class.
Julie
P.S. What do you mean Johnny, all my fault!!